“I don’t deserve this” conditioning Many people with EDs carry a deeply internalised belief that: love must be earned worth comes from being good, small, compliant, helpful taking up space = being a burden Receiving a gift can trigger shame because it contradicts the belief: “I haven’t done enough to deserve this.” Giving, on the other hand, reinforces the role they feel safest in: the giver, the carer, the one who asks for nothing. Control feels safer than surrender Eating d

Christmas can rock your schedule (which is challenging enough to stick to in ED recovery anyway), with friends and family flying in, fear foods in every cupboard and the pressure of the big day itself. So how do you navigate this season and remain grounded?  PLAN, PLAN, AND PLAN SOME MORE!  The first plan is to schedule for Christmas Day and create it well in advance (now would be great)! It will help you to know what to expect as you make your way through the day. Plan to th

For many people healing their relationship with food... alcohol = wasted calories …and that belief can feel disheartening during the festive season. But Christmas fun isn’t about what’s in your glass, but about freedom, connection, and memories. You deserve those things, with or without alcohol . If the fear is: “ If I drink, I’ll have to eat less ” or “ It’s wasted calories ” ...remember: restriction often creates the very anxiety we’re trying to avoid. What if drinking were

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The festive holidays are a stressful time for those living with eating disorders. There is usually more food in the home than usual,...

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